ABC communication with children

Children of any age are asked difficult questions. There is no simple answer to them sometimes not found. But if you want your children to come with questions for you, but did not use unreliable sources of information, better as soon as possible to make contact with his son or daughter.

Small children

Small children ask millions of questions. Sometimes, they relate to sensitive and difficult topics such as asking about death. I want to protect the child from unpleasant thoughts. But attempts to evade the call may do more harm than good. Realizing that even the parents do not want to talk about a terrible subject, he will close and cease to share their thoughts.

When you talk with your child, it is important to:

* Do not forbid him to express their thoughts on any subject
* Respond honestly
* Listen to the child and show that you understand his feelings
* Do not tell your child that he was too young to know about such things
* Answer simple and clear
* Do not overload the child's information
* If you do not know the answer, do not pretend to know. To tell the truth: "I do not know how you answer this."

Be available for child

At any age children, it is important to know that parents are always nearby. Note that when a child is to talk about what happened to him during the day. Maybe it happens during dinner or before bedtime or when you are helping her son or daughter to do homework. Start the conversation themselves. Give your child understand that you're interested in everything that was happening to him.

Note

The child must feel that his hearing.

* When he was somehow disturbed, put the case and carefully listen to what he wants to tell.
* Be interested.
* Listen to the views of the child, even if you do not agree with it.
* Give the child an opportunity to substantiate their case, before you answer.
* If you need to specify what is not understood from the story of the child.

Do not hurry to answer

Before you answer, think about it. On this depends whether the child will listen to your words.

* Do not react to words or actions of the child is too emotional. Structurally articulate their claims. The child may ignore the words uttered in anger.
* To express their views without criticizing the child's opinion. He should understand that perhaps you do not agree and that's OK.
* Do not argue which one of you is right. Recognize that you disagreed, and stated its position.
* During the call, take into account the feelings of the child, not just their own.

More tips:

* Find out what the child is making this conversation. Do I have it pleasure? Or advice? Or need your help in solving the problem? Maybe the child wants to be simply listened in silence?
* Do not sermonize, avoid criticism, threats, insults.
* Allow your child to learn from their experiences. If the consequences of a deed is not dangerous, it is better not to intervene.

Raising children - a difficult thing, but if you listen to your child and talk with him about important things, family ties and friendship between you will become only stronger.
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